Tuesday, June 16, 2009

Lets Discuss

Of late, there a thing struck in my mind. When ever I scan channels on the idiot box, watch a music video- new or old, come across a picture, a movie, when it come to expressing love, I always find the guy is in charge. Ever wondered why?


I have no doubts or second opinions about the thing that girls like being pampered and cuddled. They like when the guy takes the initiative to hold hands, or to hug or kiss.
But what comes to my mind is do they girls only like being loved? Don't they want to express or just show their love?
I am confused why it is not descent that if the girl initiates, holds the hand of the guy or kisses him?
Why do the girls have to curb their desires to hold hand out and reach the one they love? Now, tell me if it is fair.



15 blandishes:

Phoenix said...

hmm i so agree why cant women be the initiator.. i have been wondering too but on second thoughts girls are supposed to be dainty and all..maybe thats why they dont...

personally id rather the men approach me...im too wimpy for being the initiator... :P :)

i think its got to do with social conditioning... :P

Phoenix said...

yay!! me first!!!

Preeti said...

i have been an initiator n you know what i got to hear when things went bad in relation ....
' you were the one interested in me , remember you talked me into this relationship' ...and i said ' I should have known , you were too sissy to even propose .."

I think its absolutely fine for a girl to propose , initiate kiss, holding hands and even more...and the guy who is baffled by all this is not worth you girl ...

I really hate it when guys label a girl easy or characterless when she approches him... we still live by old rulez even we consider ourself equals ..

AD said...

oh i m a big bad besharam in terms of the initiative thing.
if i feel like it i will grab him and kiss him, irrespective of where we are.

ab pyar kia to aap pehle aap pehle to nahi chalay ga na :D

Ria said...

i dont see anything wrong in taking the initiative however, sometimes in places like India, a girl is supposed to be submissive when it comes to these things! Else things r spoken abt her character.

Anyways, i dont care abt such presumptions and i m very outgoing in such things. :P

Pavitra .... said...

You're absolutely right....I don't think its wrong for girls to take initiative....I don't understand why people find it a wrong thing to do....
I don't mind initiating these things....

Girl Next Door said...

Yeah I agree with "Preeti". when things go wrong, Guys label girls as easily available or characterless. That's why some girls tend to be on the receiving side and don't take initiatives when it comes to proposing, kissing or anything in love.

яノςんム said...

@ Raka,
i know tht.. but what i am talking about here is when u r in a relationship, even then u have to worry about like what the other person shall think of u??

яノςんム said...

@ Preeti,
ths unfortunate to know and u know wat, thi sis one of the most ridiculous things i have ever heard. "u talked me into a relationship" as if he is a kid and was talked into not buying an ice cream..

wat the hell.. men like tht are hypocrites..

oh and about characterless thing, wen a guy does all this he is supposed to flaunt them.. wat else would it be besides hypocrisy?

яノςんム said...

@ Seher,
i love ur spirit babes :) it shud be like this only :D

яノςんム said...

@ Ria,
thank god, if u had told me tht u are shy, u had disappointed me!! :D

яノςんム said...

@ Pavitra,
thnx for agreeing babes :) and there is nothing wrong in initiating.. and if it turns out be then, i would say the guy dint deserve that at all
:)

яノςんム said...

@ Girl next door,
u r right.. but then in a relationship u dun care about wat the other person shall think and if u do then the relationship isnt as smooth as it it shud be..

Suyog said...
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Suyog said...

i first don't exactly know the rules if any like the "guys" are not supposed to read and comment on the posts under the name Femme Fatale.I m sorry if there is such rule but i just wanna say that we are living in such social setup that the girl is expected to never initiate. And if there is someone who initiates she is talked about her character, and the people say that she is lose. The main reason are the females only as they are jealous of the boldness of the others.
Talking of the other aspect ....guys never wanna dominate over gals....they feel lucky to have such girl who takes any kinda initiative in the relationship whether physical or emotional, but exceptions are always there ..